Guest blog by Faye Cox @ http://www.fayecoxcoaching.co.uk/
Faye is a Mindset & Confidence Coach who works with a range of ambitious individuals and business owners world-wide. Using her Coaching, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy knowledge and NLP skills and experience Faye supports these individuals to gain the necessary confidence to help them achieve what they truly want in life.
We hear people talk a lot about setting and achieving goals, but it can be easier said than done,
especially when you’re only just starting to get your head around setting them.
As Neil Armstrong climbed out of his space shuttle, he used the words,
“One small step for man; one giant leap for mankind.”
If you remember that historic first walk on the moon (if not check it out on you-tube, it’s worth watching) you will understand why one small step at a time is the best way to break your goals down into bite-size pieces.
He didn’t just decide one day, “Oh, I think I might go and walk on the moon next week.” It took years of research, practice, knowledge, commitment and focus before he was even able to board a spacecraft, let alone walk on the moon.
The point is everyone finds it difficult to stay focused on their goal. The topsy-turvy world of self motivation is evident everywhere. Lose weight only to gain weight again, give up smoking, only to start again. Even the smallest goal can carry the heaviest weight.
Realistic expectations, and a positive attitude, combined with small action steps can make your goals more achievable.
How? You must first know and understand your goal.
Begin with one specific goal and write it down often where you can see it. It doesn’t have to be anything major; start with something simple. This is your first step to focusing on your commitment.
Then, break it down into small steps.
You can create a physical timeline to help you do this. Create some space and use some paper as stepping-stones. Mark your first piece of paper with start and put it on the floor closest to you. Then mark your last piece of paper with your goal and put it the furthest away from you.
Then create pages in between with the steps you’re going to take to get you from your start paper to your goal paper. This will really help you visualise your timeline. You can even mark each paper with a time-frame in which you wish to achieve each step.
Another example of breaking it down is; Let’s say you want to begin a diet and exercise program. Your goal is to lose 50 pounds, and be able to run two miles a day.
It’s August; you indicate a target date of February. Write it down: 50 pounds; two miles a day; February. Focus daily on these words.
Next, break it down into even smaller steps. Follow a specific diet plan; and begin running 10 minutes a day.
If in the first week, you begin to see results – your confidence will build; and you will become even more motivated to continue until you get to your end goal.
You can also keep a journal.
Sticking with the diet goal for ease, In one half of the book you could record your diet progress; in the second half of the book you could record the amount of running time you’ve achieved. You may not believe it, but when you write about yourself, you tend not to lie about it.
Read your journal often. Use a red pen to write your diet and exercise achievements. Even if you consume something you shouldn’t, don’t worry about it. You’re not perfect; and you don’t need that kind of pressure. Just keep going. You’re allowed a mistake every once in a while. Let go of the guilt as this will only slow you down and make you less likely to achieve what you’ve set out to do.
Remember you’re human and don’t compare your progress with others as their goal and steps will be different to yours.
Another tip is to use the ‘I could vs the I should’ technique.
Write down everything that you feel you SHOULD be doing to achieve your goal and then re-frame this and write it as I COULD.
This will immediately shift your mindset to see things differently and help you work out how you want to get there, rather than you focusing on doing it someone else’s way or how other people are saying you should.
For example; I should be creating loads of video content for my business – this might make you feel uncomfortable or you might not want to which is why you’re not taking action.
A re-frame of this might be I could create a podcast. An audio podcast may appeal to you more and be something that you are motivated to create.
Finally, never give up. You’ve come so far. Your confidence is growing and you’re so close to your goal.
Reward yourself every now and then.
Celebrate your wins.
You deserve it!
Don’t think too much about the end result, enjoy the journey. If Neil Armstrong can walk on the moon; you can accomplish anything you set your mind to.
You too can take action, grow in confidence and get yourself unstuck with the help of my new guide
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